Feb 153 min read

Hate Valentine's Day? Let Me Be Your Mirror

Hate Valentine's Day? Let Me Be Your Mirror

Valentine's Day can often be a day of mixed emotions. For some, it's a celebration of love and partnership. For others, it can be a source of frustration and discontent.

If you find yourself feeling upset or annoyed – whether it's about not receiving gifts, frustrations with your partner, or the fact that you're single – it's time to see Valentine's Day as more than just a holiday. It's a mirror, reflecting deeper aspects of our inner selves and emotions.

I used to be the girl who got upset at not getting flowers or wine. I got annoyed and frustrated. What I now realise, is that not looking after myself, meant I was constantly seeking validation from my long-suffering boyfriends. Whoops! Sorry guys.

But seriously, it not only speaks to the strength or your relationship with a partner, but also your relationship with yourself. The happier you are with the latter.... the less you care about flowers. Promise...

So, you hate Valentine's Day? Let Me Be Your Mirror...

The Cold, Harsh Mirror of Valentine's Day

You might think you're angry because you didn't get flowers or chocolates. But let's be honest: your irritation is likely stemming from something much deeper. Valentine's Day, with all its hype and expectations, can amplify underlying issues that you may have been ignoring or suppressing.

What Does the Lack of Gifts Signify?

If you're upset about not receiving a gift, it's worth exploring what you think that gift represents. Are you seeking validation of being lovable, attractive, or cared for? Often, our disappointment is less about the material gift and more about what we perceive it signifies.

The Reflection of Our Inner Wounds

Our reactions to Valentine's Day can reveal deeper wounds and emotions. Maybe it's a lack of body confidence, a feeling of inadequacy, or comparison with others ("Sharon got flowers, why didn't I?"). These feelings point to areas in our lives that need attention and healing.

The Partner's Perspective

Remember, partners are not mind readers. They may not understand the depth of your inner thoughts and feelings. Communication is key, but so is self-reflection and understanding your own needs and desires.

Amplifying the Pain of Singleness

For singles, Valentine's Day can feel like a spotlight on their relationship status, intensifying feelings of loneliness or the fear of never finding a partner. This discomfort is a call for reflection, not a reason to despise the day or yourself.

Questions for Self-Reflection

Before you write off Valentine's Day or harbour resentment towards your partner, ask yourself some critical questions:

Have I done something for myself today?
Have I taken care of my own needs and well-being?
Do I feel good and confident in my body?
Am I fulfilled in my job or career?
Do I feel lovable and worthy of love?
Most importantly, would I love me?

The First Step to Deeper Development

If your answers to these questions reveal areas of discontent, consider this your first clue on where to focus your self-development efforts. Integrative nutrition and wellness involve considering the whole person – not just what you put in your mouth... but also relationships, self-worth, and mindset.

Valentine's Day, with all its expectations and societal pressures, can be more than a day of love or disappointment. It can be a powerful mirror that reflects our deepest needs, insecurities, and desires.

By recognising this, we can use it as a catalyst for profound self-development and personal growth.

Curious about how to embark on this journey of self-discovery and holistic health? Feel free to reach out and ask more. Remember, the journey to wellness encompasses every aspect of your being.

Don't be shy. Ask me about my journey and how you can get there too!